Love Heals Generational Pain
Rose married on the defensive determined that no man would ever “lord” it over her! Her mother demanded that they honor their dad and obey all the man-made rules of their religion. From elementary school through high school Rose was a sounding board for her mother. Rose intensely disliked her mother’s subservient attitude and wanted to know why an intelligent, talented grown woman would act like a child. Her mother’s response did not help, “I’m as afraid of your dad as anyone of you children! I married him out of obedience to God. There’s no one else who could live with him. When you get married, study your husband so you can know his likes and dislikes and do whatever is necessary to keep the peace. I have survived through prayer and the help of the Holy Spirit. Your dad says sometimes that he prays that God will forgive him if he worships me more than Him.” Rose listened but determined that she would not be like her mother. The pain and frustration were spinning judgmental and critical thoughts of resentment and rebellion. Rose carried her mother’s pain into her marriage.
Prayer:
Father, in the name of Jesus I bring my life and marriage to You. Forgive me for taking up my mother’s offense and sub-consciously holding my husband responsible for my dad’s sins. Today I let go of bad feelings toward my parents, and thank You for giving me a grateful heart for my husband. I no longer filter his words and actions through my twisted perceptions. Thank You for delivering me from the fear of man, which is a snare. I have received Jesus as my Lord and You are transforming me into the Real Me…the person You created me to be. Forgive me for being judgmental and critical toward others…I choose to conduct myself with all humility, gentleness, and patience. I choose to accept others with love, and make an effort to preserve the unity of the Spirit with the peace that ties us together. My husband and I are one body and one spirit, just as God also called us in one hope. There is one Lord, one faith, one baptism, and one God and Father of all, who is over all, through all, and in all. Father, thank You for healing the pain that I carried, and helping me see my life clearly that we might live for Your glory and Your honor, in the name of Jesus!
Scripture References: 1 John 1:9; Proverbs 29:25; John 1 (The Message) Ephesians 4:2-6 (CEB)